Do you ever get this nagging feeling when someone makes a little comment? A little comment meaning that it was said in passing or without much thought or emotion. It happens all the time; we make a comment or an observation and that's where it ends. Sometimes I wonder where the other person takes that comment though---does it stay with them and continue through their day or does it stay in that passing moment. Perhaps I don't make sense explaining it but I know that it must be a thought of other people, too.
When you are a kid, people say things all the time and you just go along with it because, well, what else would you do? If another kid says something, you eitehr get angry and say "Nuh uh" or ignore it. Do you remember any of those things that were said to you as a child? Do they still influence you today?
I still remember things that were said to me in elementary school, mostly about my weight. I took part in the 80's fashion scene (can we say crimped hair and Hypercolor shirts?) and was always nice but quiet so the only thing that anyone could pick on me for was the weight. And even 20 years later, I still remember what certain kids said and that boggles my mind that for all the things that I have accomplished, these "needle-prick" comments still resonante with me. It actually kind of irks me!
So, these comments come and go and eventually they will fade into the memory graveyard along with my math skills and remembering why I liked Jordan the best in NKOTB. But there are still these little comments today that keep elbowing me in the side. My mom said something last night that kind of put me in a sour mood and immediately after I had a strong emotional and physical reaction. To her, it wasn't anything significant or serious, strictly a little comment in a causal conversation. To me, it put a complete hault to any positivity and made me frustrated that despite all that I have been doing for myself to be healthier, my mother doesn't seem to think it is all that big of a deal.
confidence. Despite little comments on Facebook or looks on the street, we could all stand tall and be as comfortable in our own skin as we are in our pajamas.