One of the hardest things about having female friends and co-workers sometimes is this continuing need to talk about "diet" "losing weight" "can't eat X" or whatever. Granted, it is not healthy to have pastries and cupcakes in the breakroom 24/7 but it is not going to kill us all to have a slice of birthday cake once a month either. Get a group of girls around a chocolate cake and more likely than not, at least one person will say "Oh, that is going straight to my hips" or "Great, are you trying to make me fat?"
There is one lady at work that I talked with about healthy fats-those found in nuts, avocados, and olive oil-and she gave me this look like "Oh, yes healthy fats but we can't eat too many of them either!" While I understand what she meant and it is all about moderation, her tone towards food was so restrictive even when talking about healthy things. It struck me as just damaging to have to see food as the mortal enemy.
We had three birthdays in my office last month that we celebrated with cake. Each birthday person got to pick what kind of cake they wanted and our resident baker made them. When it came time to pick out a piece, one of the girls stated "I want a small piece of each!" which I thought was smart. We aren't talking massive slices of cake bigger than her head rather just thin slices where you could get two or three bites of each cake and be satisfied. My co-worker and I split the sampler plate and it was plenty to get a taste but not so much to make a huge impact on our day or psychological stability.
I completely believe that when you are sitting down with an entire cake and a fork THEN you need to re-evaluate what you are doing. When you are partaking in a celebration or out to a restaurant known for desserts, its okay to enjoy life! Life can be savoring a bite of creme brulee just as much as it is to have the people there to share it with.